Ask Amanda - Frustrated in Los Angeles

The past few months have been a whirlwind!  With appearances on Fox news, an article in SHAPE magazine and four months of our successful WomenHeart support group, people have been reaching out to me from across the country.  Thanks for all the emails, it's exciting that my message of healing hearts and healthy living is being heard.  Today, I'm tapping into my dreams of being a columnist like Carrie Bradshaw from Sex in the City, and highlighting one of these emails for all my readers.  While I'm not a dating expert, I am a heart coach to many and can't wait to share advice in my new column, Ask Amanda.  So send me your questions via Facebook, Twitter or email me like most of you have done.  The following email is signed Frustrated in Los Angeles.

I've been trying to get pregnant with my second child now for a few months.  I don't want to stress about it, but it's hard.  Do you have any good books you can recommend on positive living?

Dear Frustrated in LA, 


First, I can't begin to tell you how many women I've met, both old friends and newbies, who are frustrated and, like you, want a child.  While mine were never fertility issues, I was told at two separate points in my life that my heart couldn't handle carrying a child.  I loved being an auntie to my brothers's kids, but I wanted my own.  It was heart warming and heart wrenching all at the same time.  After years of medications, therapists and finally embracing the fact that I may never carry my own child, I actually got the green light from my cardiologist and high risk OB.  Today I have two healthy little girls.  


Now on to the baby making...  Don't forget, that's supposed to be the fun part!  The first thing I always tell people is to try and get away from the madness for a night, especially if you have another child.  Find a neighbor, a grandparent or friend to help out.  If you're a parent then you know, it's already stressful caring for one child.  Then add on the stress of trying to make another one and bam, it's exhausting to think about.  If you can't get out of town then do something special for your hubby and step it up a notch in the bedroom - and I don't mean just laying there with your legs up praying his swimmers survive the trip.  Maybe you could ditch your mommy sweats and put your hair down for one night, I know it's hard but I find it works:)  Okay and my last piece of advice, stop worrying!!  Worry is a serious heart breaker, believe me I"ve been there!  It's all consuming and toxic.


Oh, and to answer your initial question, check out Grateful for My Diagnosis for some of my favorite "positive living" books.  My favorite daily doses of inspiration come from subscribing to Abraham-Hicks daily law of attraction quotes, The Daily Love and also check out my Twitter feed, @VoicesToShare.